Archive for September, 2010
Do you need to “Let It Go”?
Monday, September 13th, 2010I got into a conversation over the weekend with a buddy of mine about kids that bully - we started reminiscing about our childhoods and the experiences that each of us had with bullying - this friend had an older brother that was the king of bullies - I happened to be on the receiving end of quite a bit of it myself but admittedly, I stand accused of being a first degree jackass - especially to my younger brother (I’ve said this before but I’ll say it again - Sorry E) - we started to discuss parenting or the lack of it and the role that plays in our choices during childhood - we both agreed that the dynamic of the household plays a huge role in how a kid will behave and what kind of character he or she will develop - The both of us were products of divorced parents whose fathers weren’t around much - when this happens potential trouble is very likely - unless the mother rules the house with an iron fist, which neither of ours did - toward the end of our talk my friend said something that led to my phrase of week; ‘LET IT GO’ - he believed his brother was so mean and abusive because of the anger and frustration he was carrying around with him from when his parents split - I can accept that and believe it to be true but it’s what he said next that I found to be an important lesson - he said his brother is still carrying around that same anger and frustration despite being 46 years old - the first thing that came to mind after he said this was how his brother needs to let those things from the past go - those memories and feelings that are attached to them are toxic and life threatening - we all go through life collecting heartaches and breaks - abuse and embarrassment - pain and suffering - but I can’t stress the importance of ‘LETTING IT GO’ enough - find a way to forgive and forget - cleanse your mind and your spirit and move on - we have no use for those debilitating things in your life - the good news is that there are ways to set yourself free from the ball and chain of your past - start by living each day in the present - leave the past where it belongs, right where it is, in the past - look at all the beauty and love that surrounds you - friends and family - the sunrise and fresh air - our generous earth - passion and purpose - all of the blessing and gifts you need are right there for the taking - oh and one more thing that will absolutely help you find peace, love, health and happiness: LIVE THE 7 and spread the Love.
blog written by John Nies